The Bridge to Nowhere
Have you ever felt like you were on a long winding bridge to nowhere? As the years pass by and unaccomplished goals began to fall to the bottom of your checklist into the “never going to happen” file, we often find that what is left, can easily be summed up into three categories. Go to work, pay bills, and die. As responsibilities determine more and more of our important life decisions, do you find yourself feeling like there has to be more to life than this?
If you have found this to be true I would like for you to ask yourself three questions.
1. How much control does society and the media have over our hopes and dreams?
Many outside elements can effect the development of our life’s expectations. Every day we are saturated with images of perceived beauty, romance, career, and family lifestyles to aspire to. As the media drives culture with marketing and advertising, our perception of what we want out of life begins to conform to the intended level of conventionally defined success. Culture drives the creation of value and we find ourselves being programed like robots to live lives that we were not intended to live. As we compete with our neighbors, family members and others around us to reach the imaginary brass ring, we create a lifestyle that is further away from our destiny. We are also now working long unfulfilled, and sometimes agonizing hours to maintain this. Meanwhile the media that produces this need to obtain these things grows more powerful. As a result our souls are left empty and depleted when we find that after obtaining these things we are still not as happy as we thought we would be, but still we press on. This creates a never ending cycle of longing and debt that eventually snowballs into misery instead of contentment. When we are not confident in who we are, we become susceptible to outside definitions of ourselves.
2. How do we recover from the past failed attempts to fulfill our dreams?
It can be emotionally exhausting to recall the many failed attempts that one may have had to fulfill their dreams in the past. When one strategy does not work in the way that we anticipated we are faced with the choice to either keep going, try again, or abort the process all together. It has been said that the quickest way to ensure success is to increase your rate of failure. If this is true, then what better reason can we find to try again? Dreams do not have an expiration date and we can not allow pain or embarrassment to stop us from obtaining our goals. With each failure there is a lesson that is learned through experience. With each failure we are that much closer to obtaining all of the elements that are needed for the winning formula. God said that he will do a new thing! It is never too late to try it again!
3. At what point do we hand our dreams over to God and what does that really mean?
13Listen! You who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this city and stay a year and make money.” 14 You do not know about tomorrow. What is your life? It is like fog. You see it and soon it is gone. 15 What you should say is, “If the Lord wants us to, we will live and do this or that.” 16 But instead you are proud. You talk loud and big about yourselves. All such pride is sin. James 4:13-16 (NLV)
We often fall short when our hearts are not in line with God. Our plans will often disappoint us when we leave God out of them. He has placed specific dreams in us for a reason and he gives us the desires of our hearts. When we seek him, it is then that we find more to life. It is then that we unlock the gift of wholeness and adventure that fuels the fire of purpose. So clear the dust from your museum of ideas and begin your next day with a refreshed confidence. It is in God that you will find a new expectation that this time will not fail.